No desire for sex occurs more often than one believes. The
longer a relationship lasts, the less sex generally takes place. As long as
both are satisfied, everything is fine. However, if one of the partners is
unhappy, then there is a solution to be found. First of all, you go in search
of the reasons for the dwindling sexual desire.
Sexologist in Noida, Delhi introduces
the most important sex killers and suggest solutions. Because often it is only
trifles that let the desire to awaken with the partner.
What to do if the desire for sex disappears?
In terms of sex, many people are under enormous
pressure. Because often the more you have sex, the better. However,
one-fifth of all couples now live in a sexless
marriage. "Sexless" means: There is still sex, but not more than
ten times a year.
These are not pairs beyond the seventy or eighty. They
are between thirty and forty and thus far from the midlife crisis or
menopause. What is the reason that so many people have so little sex?
The
best sexologist
in Noida, Delhi explains here.
1. Sex is overrated
The first reason may be that sex is completely overrated and
it is basically normal to have sex once a month or even once a week when both
are relaxed and can spend time together.
However, some people had sex much more often in the past and
felt very comfortable with it. But in the course of time, sex has gone far
and better out of her life. Because they just do not feel like it
anymore. Why is it?
2. Poor sex quality
Poor sex quality is one of the common reasons why women, in
particular, prefer not to have sex and do not want to fancy the popular
headache. Here the solution is called communication! Because if the
other does not know where the problem lies, nothing can change, says
sexologist doctor in Noida,
Delhi.
3. Stress
Many people experience stress at their peak, for example,
when working or playing sports. Sex is rarely one of them. Because
stress is a real sex killer, says the
best sexologist doctor in Noida,
Delhi. If you are stressed out frequently, look for ways to escape
the stress.
Plan your day or week with more freedom - and in the few
free hours, do not just sit in front of the TV, but practice a
relaxation method, such as progressive Jacobsen muscle
relaxation, meditation, autogenic training or whatever you like.
4. Relationship problems
Of course, if there are problems in the relationship,
it is not easy to have sex with just that partner. The desire fades, as
the problems hover over the relationship like a dark cloud. You feel
unfairly treated, misunderstood, perhaps cheated or not taken
seriously. However, many people need the feeling of being safe and close
to their partner in order to develop their lust for sex. But if you fight
constantly or close yourself to one of the partners, then no more closeness can
arise, says
sexologist
in Ghaziabad, Delhi.
Problems can basically be solved if everyone is prepared to
speak openly, to stop playing games, to be honest (even to themselves) and to
compromise. Often, it also helps to take one another's perspective in
order to better understand it. What works wonders is
an apology that comes from the heart. It can heal many wounds
and be the chance for a new beginning.
5. Alcohol
Alcohol breaks down inhibitions and makes it easier to
have sex. But if you overdo it, the libido will disappear, says the
best sexologist in Ghaziabad,
Delhi. Also, not every partner likes an alcoholic banner - let
alone sex with a drunkard. Although alcohol can increase the number of
one-night stalls if you want it, if you want more sex with your partner,
restraint is more important when it comes to alcohol, especially if the other
is not likes to drink.
6. Lack of sleep
If you have a lack of sleep, then it is almost normal if the
desire for sex is missing. Therefore, take care of enough
sleep. Spend less time watching TV / PC / Tablet and prefer to go to bed
earlier.
If sleep disorders are the reason for your lack of sleep,
then it might make sense to still have sex, as it can demonstrably improve
sleep disorders. Therefore, let yourself be seduced despite tiredness and
observe how this measure affects your sleep quality, suggests the
best sexologist doctor in
Ghaziabad, Delhi.
7. Children
If children suddenly belong to the family, then the desire
to have sex diminishes for different reasons. You set other priorities,
take care of the children and do not have so much time for the partner. In
the evening you fall dead tired into bed and is glad, if not after an hour, the
first already crying or want to crawl into the parent's bed.
Nevertheless, take time for your partner
regularly. Look after a babysitter who can take over the children for a
few hours. Even the grandparents or aunts/uncles can possibly be clamped
from time to time. Later, the children can spend the night with friends -
and you will have time for togetherness again.
8. Medicines
Some medications reduce libido. Tragically,
the contraceptive pill can be one of them. So you take a
pill to be able to have safe sex, but exactly because of this pill has no
desire for sex, says
sexologist
doctor in Ghaziabad, Delhi.
Other medications that can reduce the desire for sex include
the following:
- antidepressants
- Antihypertensives
- chemotherapeutics
- Finasteride (for
hair loss)
- Diuretics
(dehydrator)
- heart
medicines
- cholesterol-lowering
drug
If you do not feel like having sex and you are taking any of
these medications or other medicines, talk to your
sexologist in Gurgaon, Delhi about
it. Maybe you can reduce the dose or get another medicine that does not
have this side effect.
9. Low self-esteem
Some people do not feel well in their own skin. There
is a lack of self-esteem. You feel too fat, too thin, too bulky, too
muscular - in short, too unattractive. No wonder 50 - 60 percent of
Indians prefer sex in the dark. They lack the necessary self-confidence to
even let the light during sex, says the
best sexologist in Gurgaon,
Delhi.
If your partner belongs to this type of human, then it may
be that he does not feel like having sex in daylight, simply because he is
ashamed of his body. Take him/her the concerns. Tell him/her how
beautiful, unique and sexy you find him or her.
If you are the one who is not really satisfied with your
body then there are at least two possibilities. Either you learn that
beautiful bodies do not have to be perfect and that they are as you are or you
are now taking various measures (sports, diet changes) to shape your body
the way you would like it!
10. Overweight
Overweight can make the desire for sex
disappear. Either because of the low self-esteem mentioned above or
because you cannot move as you like.
Fat tissue is also a hormonally active tissue. It
converts testosterone into the female hormone estrogen. Overweight men
therefore often have a lower testosterone level and thus less
desire. Also, the penis is less well supplied with blood in overweight,
which reduces the stability and can lead to erectile dysfunction, says
the
best sexologist
doctor in Gurgaon, Delhi.
Anyone
who reduces his or her excess weight will soon
not only feel better and more mobile but will automatically feel more like sex
again.
11. Erection problems
Of course, erectile dysfunction or too early
ejaculation is also a reason to have less appetite for sex. Because once
it did not work out as desired, then men are often under pressure and fear that
it will not work again next time. However, this fear is counterproductive
and virtually promotes failure, says
sexologist doctor in Gurgaon,
Delhi.
Talk to your partner in any case, which will be a great
relief. Together, you can test measures that, on the one hand, increase
your erection and, on the other hand, prevent premature ejaculation. On
the Internet, you will find numerous help under these search terms.
12. Not enough testosterone
Testosterone provides the desire for sex. With age,
however, the level of testosterone decreases continuously. Some men then
lose their libido, says
sexologist in Faridabad, Delhi. However,
there is much that can be done to increase testosterone levels
again or at least halt its decline.
13. Depression
Anyone who is depressed generally does not feel like doing
anything at all - and so does not enjoy sex. Here it is not helpful to
treat the sexual aversion. Instead, depression must be the focus of
treatment. If the depression subsides, the desire for sex also returns,
says the
best
sexologist in Faridabad, Delhi.
14th menopause
Many women lose their desire for sex during
menopause. This is not surprising, as they experience physical changes in
this phase that do not make sex comfortable, such as a dry vaginal mucosa and
pain during sex, says the
best sexologist doctor in
Faridabad, Delhi.
But there are natural remedies for
the typical menopausal symptoms. Also, a therapy with bioidentical
hormones, hormones that are similar to the body's own hormones, can make the
menopause - if symptoms set - much more pleasant.
15. Pushing or begging
If one of the partners - mostly the man - just cannot stand
it anymore and makes clumsy allusions to finally get back on the train ... then
this does not promote the pleasure of the other. On the
contrary. Empathy would be appropriate here.
Because often the woman has everything in her ears, so right
now she does not need candles or other romantic touches to get in the mood, but
maybe just someone who helps and sees what to do. Someone who overdue
repairs take care of the garden, walks with the children for a few hours in the
woods or on the sports field or sometimes - without any request - the dishes.
Relief in everyday life leads to more relaxation
- and who is relaxed, can only develop the desire for sex, says sexologist doctor in Faridabad,
Delhi.